Anemone wrote: although it is what qualifies me for travelling first class on welfare (non-disability welfare rates are not even enough to keep people alive in Canada so the extra is very badly needed).
I want to move to Canada!

My wife is severely disabled (due to car and work accidents not her fault), the doctors said she would die within 6 months (6 years ago), something like a 76% total disability (10% is supposed to be enough to classify a person as disabled in the USA), she has had two spinal surgeries and needs another along with a heart and lung transplant, and we still cannot get insurance payments nor USA government disability, let alone unemployment insurance. The only things keeping her alive are herbs and nutrition, and keeping her away from doctors… but that’s a different story…
I am a forty-year-old chronic welfare recipient (>7.5 years of welfare to date, + unemployment insurance etc). I went to the best schools, got straight As, got three science degrees, including a Masters, and was basically unemployable at the end of all this. I would like to know to what extent my problems are due to being exceptionally gifted, to being female, to being handicapped, to personality differences, or to lack of family support.
I finished college at about the same time I finished high school, and though I scored the highest on employment tests, never was I offered a decent job (many USA employers want employees who score average on tests, something I didn’t know at the time). After a few years of trying to do well in a mediocre world, and seeing an unskilled uneducated neighborhood girl get a job as a communications equipment tech I tried for months to get, I finally got off my butt and started my own business (which did very well). My ‘socially approved education’ was a 100% waste of time. The only support needed (and desirable) is one’s own.
The average USA employer does not want an above-average employee, and an above-average person needs to look elsewhere for an income. It is not logical to hope to find fair-play in a capitalist economic system that is based on unfair trade practices. How can a person of high logic find logic in an illogical society?
What I alluded to in my original post was that if a person chooses to let other people control his/her life, the person can never do better than what the people allow. Gifted individuals (stable emotions, stable mentality, IQ of around 150+, a person who does something with their talents) chooses what they want in life, and if the desired thing is possible, the gifted individual will achieve it. It is not logical for a talented individual to want acceptance in a mediocre society that shuns talent (even though most of us have tried). High IQ societies are for finding acceptance, where a person can vent and share thoughts usually capable of being understood by others: a thing that cannot be had in normal societies.
I am poor (oh the sob stories I could tell!

), but at the same time I don’t care about achieving a mediocre society’s definition of ‘success’, my interests are in something else, what no other person has ever done before, and what no ‘well adjusted’ social conformist could ever do, ever. We get what we aim for, whether we choose lofty goals or no goals at all. Life can be hard sometimes, but hey, that just makes the achievements more special.
I just want some solid answers. If gifted people are at risk, then high IQ societies need to address that in some way.
Your sentence structuring and use of the English language is very good. Your obvious IQ qualifications mandate that you are not now nor will you ever be capable of fitting-in with an average social system: you always will be ‘at risk’ of not being average. In the spirit of the reason why this forum exists, I offer the thought that your skill of language be coupled with your talents and aimed towards a productive goal that has meaning and value to you alone. If money were the only thing of value, then illegal drugs and body parts are possible occupations, but if aspiring to achieve a thing worthy of one’s talents is deemed of value, then money is not. A person must choose which is worth their life.
If they aren't, then someone needs to get the word out to parents who are freaking out.
Also, the support available to people in poverty does not even begin to address my needs. So it would be interesting to see which other gifted people have serious problems and which don't. Might clarify the causes of poverty.
No articles nor research are found about how average people are ‘at risk’ of not fitting-in with high IQers, the articles are about how gifted people are supposed to magically fit-in with non-gifted behaviors. Most people who write articles about gifted people being ‘at risk’ are using the yard-stick of conformity to mediocre standards. Most writers of ‘at risk’ studies are not gifted themselves, and should not be deemed as authorities on the subject any more than would a 100 IQ person be qualified to write about what it is like to have a 140 IQ. In my opinion, the majority of at-risk research is weak-kneed at best.
Every time my wife is injured (5 times now in 25 years, and now me twice in 2 years), we lose our jobs, our businesses, our home, our cars, credit, everything, and we are left with little more than the clothes on our backs. Each time we start over, living in cheap housing (cheap as in a one room rural shack without utilities), driving a clunker car, working at a menial job, and we slowly rebuild our lives. Each time we regain what we lost plus more, and each time we are left with lofty achievements accomplished during our down-time. We make use of our time, we do not sit with hope that someone else will tend to our needs.
I fully sympathize with everyone who has a disability of any sort, but at the same time I have no sympathy for a person who does not choose to aim for higher goals than what a mediocre society can aim for. Handicaps and poverty are a part of life, not the rulers of life. All responsibility is the person’s own, no one else’s, and the only thing a gifted person is at risk for, is one’s own indecision.
Anemone, you have my best wishes at heart. When life seems annoying to me, I just set new goals, and then get on with my life.
